In 2015 I walked away from my online business.
Back then I offered email marketing services and products. I helped solopreneurs plan and build an effective online marketing strategy.
Things were going well. I had a handful of high end clients and had sold 25+ copies of my first online course. I offered a service and a product people wanted.
My sales funnels were working. All I needed to do was ramp up my marketing. I was months away from the part-time, six-figure business I dreamed of.
And then I pulled the plug. I stopped accepting new clients and took my course off the market.
For the next six months, I stepped away from my online business.
At the time, I blamed personal circumstances. I had recently lost my mother after a long battle with Alzheimer’s. And I was half way through a high-risk pregnancy (which luckily turned out well).
Yes, I was under a lot of stress. But was this sufficient reason to stop working towards my goal?
I think not. I used my personal circumstances as an excuse to give up, just when I needed to keep pushing forward.
The Real Reason I Abandoned My Business
Here’s the real reason I stepped away from my business… I was scared.
I had commitments I wasn’t sure I could handle. I was scared that work would take over my family life.
I was afraid of failing. Of looking dumb. Of letting my clients down.
It wasn’t until our baby boy was three months old that I returned to online business. I also took the opportunity to change directions.
I was determined never to give up again. And to help me do this, I pursued my passion. I wanted to do work that excited me and made a real difference in the world.
I switched my focus to helping work-at-home parents create a life they love.
But here’s the thing… could I have made the same shift six months earlier?
Absolutely – yes!
If you have a big goal, you’re going to face fear. Outside circumstances are going to get in the way. It’s inevitable.
What separates the successful from the not-so-successful is how they handle their fear.
The successful keep going no matter what obstacles are thrown in their path. The unsuccessful retreat to safety.
Do It Scared
In 2015, fear stopped me in my tracks. Not the loss of a loved one. Nor the trauma of a difficult pregnancy.
These things were tough. But there are people with much harder circumstances who have created huge success. Such as Jon Morrow. Who can only move his face. Yet despite incredible challenges in his life, he has built a blogging empire and reached over 5 million people.
I’m grateful to have learned this lesson. And I don’t hold any shame or regret for walking away when I did.
Since facing my fears and coaching others through theirs, I’ve come to understand the importance of doing it scared. Which is why I’m excited to discover a new podcast about taking action in the face of fear.
I’ve been following Ruth Soukup for a while. She blogs at livingwellspendingless.com and is the founder of Elite Blog Academy. She’s a New York Times best-selling author and has created incredible success in her life and those of thousands of other bloggers.
In April 2018, Ruth launched a new podcast. And it’s my new favorite podcast. Because Ruth is sharing a message everyone needs to hear.
We’re all scared. If you want to unleash your full potential, you need to move through the fear. You must do it scared.
How To 10X Your Results
Okay, you’re ready to do it scared. What next? You need to set a goal that does two things:
- It’s meaningful to you.
- It’s so big it scares you.
I’ve talked about how to set meaningful goals before. This is important. If you don’t feel connected to your goal (however big it is) then you’re going to struggle with motivation.
Now, you may want to set meaningful goals that are small. This is okay. These kinds of goals are fulfilling and are stepping stones to greater things.
But if you set small goals, you won’t reach your full potential. You’ll fail to make the greatest possible impact in the world.
So, how do you find your 10X goal? The kind of goal that scares you?
Here’s a step-by-step process to help you come up with your big, scary goal.:
- Start by thinking about what you want to achieve in your life. Dream big – you have your whole life to achieve these goals. What do you want to do before you die? Do you want to start a business? Create a non-profit organization? Write a book? Speak at an event? Travel around the world? Aim to come up with 101 lifetime goals. Yes – this is a lot. But you’ll be surprised at how many ideas you come up with once you get started.
- Write down your life-time goals. As you do this, think about how each goal makes you feel. Highlight any that spark excitement and fear.
- After about 30 minutes, take a break. This gives your subconscious time to brainstorm more goals. Over the next 24 hours, add any new goals that occur to you.
- When you’re done, read through your list. Highlight, the goals that fill you with the most joy and fear. These are your big lifetime goals.
- Now, you want to pick one goal to go after first. What do you most want to start working on now?
- Rewrite your one goal so that it’s measurable and has an end date (ideally within the next six to 18 months). The more specific your goal, the more likely you are to achieve it.
- Finally, commit to your goal. How you do this, depends on your personality. You could share it with a friend or loved one. Write it down and put it somewhere you’ll see every day. Or post it on social media or in a public community.
You want this to become the one goal you think about all the time. The goal you’re going to work on every day until you achieve it.
My 10X Goal for 2018 (and 2019)
Okay, in the spirit of commitment. I’m going to share my next big goal with you. I formulated this goal in February of 2018. As I write this blog post, we’re approaching the end of April.
I’ve made some progress on meeting this goal. But I still have a long way to go. My big goal is this:
Sell 100,000 books by end 2019.
My goal is measurable (sell a specific number of books) and timebound (by end 2019).
It’s also really scary!
Before I set this goal, I’d sold 16,000 books in two years. I now needed to sell another 80,000 books.
Can I do it? I have no idea.
Do I know how to do it? Not exactly. But I have some ideas. And since committing to this goal new opportunities have been cropping up every week.
Because that’s what happens when you think about your goal every day. You become open to opportunities that you wouldn’t have noticed before.
It’s like a staircase. Thinking about your big goal leads to new opportunities. Acting on these ideas opens even more doors. You keep taking bigger steps. Until you reach your goal.
Unless, of course, you stop. If you stumble at an obstacle or let fear stop you, you stop climbing the staircase. You don’t want that to happen to you.
To achieve your big goals you must be prepared to do it scared.
Your 10X Goal
What do you think? Are you ready to conquer your next big goal? What would it mean if you could 10X your results (or even 2X or 5X them)?
If you’d like more inspiring stories about doing it scared, check out the Do It Scared podcast here.
And if you need help getting started on your big goal, download my free Passion Challenge workbook below. It will show you the 5 steps to unleash your potential and earn your first $1000 from home.
Please don’t let fear stop you. We’re all scared. Let’s dream big and do it anyway!